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Affection and the lightness of language -- for she, if Pinoy, too, knows he can just be saying it but not truly meaning it, so he enjoins her at the end of the line plaintively: Deep down the Pinoy knows words are just that -- words. Sounds articulated by the vocal cords. Nice to say, good to hear.control.burgerrecords.com/un-asunto-pendiente-deseo.php
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They need not always carry the weight of truth. And we're adept at manipulating them. It's a cultural attitude to language. We're not supposed to believe everything we hear. Verbal meaning is kahulugan. The root word is hulog which means "fall" nahulog sa hagdan -- s he fell down the stairs primarily and "partial" hulugan -- installment secondarily. So there are always implications and nuances and the truth is more in them than in the words themselves. So, the bearer must be assured by the speaker -- Hindi ito bola.
Oral speech especially is, then, a game. Politicians are masters of the game. Quezon and Marcos were acknowledged orators who exhibited their genius for bola in public fora here and abroad. Love in the oral level is a game. There is the pursuer and the pursued. And there are the arrows of words to slay the wooed into belief. Even in the written certainly, the attitude to language is the same.
No wonder then that the perennial best-seller continues to be a thin book of samples of loveletters. In Tagalog, that is. Where is the truth of the loving, then? In the acts of loving, in the action of love -- especially those which are not meretricious; those which do not advertise the feeling of love and loving behind the act and actions.
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Wala sa salita; nasa gawa. Not in the words but in the actions. How does one show na hindi ito bola? There is a cultural context to it, of course. As red roses in the west. There's the gift giving, too.
But traditionally it's pasalubong -- bringing someone a gift since s he was not there when the giver was. A gift to show that one remembered. Valentine's Day is a foreign idea which has not yet seeped into our traditional cultures. But let me dwell on it a bit. Red is the emblem of the heart so very bloody, though! This one day even old people won't feel corny wearing red shirts or red skirt.
I know, in fact, a few who have Valentine's Day attire which they take out only once a year. In the s there was this red-and-white taxi named Alfredo's. See, how far we can go! Luneta national park in those times bloomed in red. That one crazy day! They are not that crazy in Japan. Primarily it's because the culture which Valentine's Day still tries to penetrate does not possess the articulate meretriciousness of ours. Theirs is an oppressed society -- oppressed by feudalism which continues to fuel it. Their extreme behavior on this day consists of a mild reversal of roles, namely, the girls can gift the boys with chocolates to express their feelings.
And that's confined to the young. Let me contrast that with a story here in Tacloban, Leyte Eastern Visayas. A couple who had been married for almost three decades had seven children between them. On Valentine's Day morning, the husband forgot to greet his wife. She let it pass. In the evening he came home a bit tipsy.
He had forgotten completely that it was Valentine's Day.
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When he was changing his clothes she threw her slippers at him. Love and loving we expect even after decades of togetherness. These are stories from my hometown, Victoria in the province of Tarlac Central Luzon. There are many such stories there. The first has to do with the parents of my closest friend, Ely. His father, Apo Sinti, was taciturn. He knew he could whip a guava branch to pulp on an offending son's butt.
During his entire life Ely remembers only one event -- the father made a top for him using only a bolo sword. He does not remember him talking to him at all. In contrast, the mother -- Apo La Paz -- was always talking. They had a huge house on our Calle Real now Rizal St. She inherited quite a large mass of riceland so she was used to ordering people about. Apo Sinti found eating at the family table a bother. Perhaps he could not stand Apo La Paz's incessant yakking which became worse during meals.
So, Apo Sinti had his special table in the kitchen. A rather small one. He always ate ahead of everybody. Apo La Paz herself, not a maid, would set the table. Then she'd have him called. He'd come, sit down, and eat silently. She'd be bustling in the kitchen -- checking the food a-cooking on the stoves, the setting of their huge family table, the gradual filling up of the dining room with people, food, and the drinks and sweets which were on another table ready for serving. During all this she would check on Apo Sinti -- saw to his glass of iced water which had to be replenished always, and the banana which was his preferred fruit.
They did not speak with each other. He ate all that was served him. She knew exactly how much rice he ate and what viands he preferred and how much of these he consumed. Then as silently as he came in, he'd leave. Apo La Paz would then call one of the maids to clean the table and place it in one corner of the kitchen. I have some follow-up questions for him. He posted a few responses already in other threads. Feel free to post your follow up questions for him in this thread.
He will see them. Btw, Larry recently did an interview with Steve Hoca, and I heard it went well.
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I will post the link to it when it becomes available. Listen to it here: Hope you all enjoy it! Hi all, Steve Hoca's interview with Larry Elterman has just been uploaded!
I liked Steve's comment about his family not understanding why he wants a foreign woman. I never talk about it with my family either, they will never understand.
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Also, Larry's comment, "The longer you stay in the Philippines the more likely you are to meet a higher quality woman" paraphrasing was worth noting. This one is very balanced and informative.
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It lags in a few moments probably cause it was 2am Steve's time and he was tired , but overall very sensible and realistic, yet optimistic at the same time. I agreed with pretty much everything said in the interview. The only disagreements I heard were over trivial things, and even then it wasn't about right or wrong, true or false, but a matter of degrees and people. Last edited by Winston on August 8th, , 7: Wish it had been even longer and more detailed.
I can tell you're brimming with knowledge about the most popular part of Abroad on Winston's site. I'm guessing the Chinese gals you approached were Filipina Chinese for the most part. I'm not surprised you got a cold reception. I think a lot of the Chinese in countries where westerners are often seen with bar girls and pay-for-play companionship try to avoid associating with us. They see themselves as set apart from the indigenous locals and above their poverty and hard life, even if they too come from a relatively modest family.
BTW, first follow-up question: Do those high interest rate opportunities with regional banks still exist? Can you post some fresh info on this forum about that? Last edited by Winston on August 12th, , 3: Here is the info he gave me about him. Everything is done from the computer, he goes where ever we wants go to.
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But, the author did virtually no hardcore research into many of the legal and financial facts that a responsible author should do. Also, the editing of the book is terrible. Simple grammar mistakes are irritating.
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